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During the negotiations, it’s really best to not be in your submissive headspace. You are a strong person with needs, wants, desires and limits. It’s called negotiating for a reason. Hold your ground with your limits and negotiate the rest. Divide and rate things into want vs needs and limits.
My limits list is rated, color coded and sectioned into categories.
I rate hard limits, soft limits (things I really would prefer not to do often but would do for him if it’s a strong want & he keeps in mind my feelings and likely doesn’t ask it at all or often of me) Then it’s rated 1-4.
1 is a need/must have and 4 is don’t care for it all that much but it’s not a soft or hard limit. My list has notes all over it as well, with thoughts and qualifications.
Daddy and I revisit it about every 4-6 months I’d guess. He has a list also. That’s why it’s called a negotiation.
This was written in 2009, but it could have been written today … or in 2012, or 2011, or 2010, or 2008 or …(via wilwheaton)
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